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  • sicklemode [they/them]
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    11 months ago

    "oh, you would be good because you could spend time with my kids!"

    So, in other words, you paying them to babysit their kids (wtf? exploitation knows no bounds) because they don't want to fulfill the obligations that come with parenthood?
    Hope I didn't misunderstand this. Are their kids around your age now? If so, still, pushing an unsolicited relationship onto someone else is just wrong. We were supposed to be over this shit after feudalism.

    • outdated_belated@lemmy.sdf.org
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      11 months ago

      The "you would be good for my kids!" incident happened twice. One time the kid was late teenaged; another time there two elementary school-aged children. Both of these rentals were in-law units.

      I think both times, the idea was that I could be some kind of role model because I did empirically have a job that allowed me to rent at that high rate they were charging? Parents, especially those that can only afford a house here because they bought in the 90s, realize that their kids will have to move away (or live at home), and are foolish enough to think that (1) kids will be inspired by me to be, essentially, bougie, and (2) even if they were, they'd have some reasonable shot at doing something beyond just… renting here.

      Both times, they tried to 'set me up' with the kids by having their kids come out to intercept me with small talk as I walked to the unit in the backyard (the kids themselves seemed fairly uninterested), and it was uncomfortable both times.

      Both times, I sort of politely blew them off and just went in my unit.

      One of these places, I had to leave when it turned out there was also a pitbull they pretended wouldn't be loose in the back yard, but, turned out, was, and attacked me every time I went to the unit. (The pitbull was set loose a few weeks after the kid intercepting incidents abated).

      The other, I left for mostly unrelated reasons.

      • sicklemode [they/them]
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        11 months ago

        I think both times, the idea was that I could be some kind of role model because I did empirically have a job that allowed me to rent at that high rate they were charging? Parents, especially those that can only afford a house here because they bought in the 90s, realize that their kids will have to move away (or live at home), and are foolish enough to think that (1) kids will be inspired by me to be, essentially, bougie, and (2) even if they were, they'd have some reasonable shot at doing something beyond just… renting here.

        Well, everyone is going to have to get to the last stage of grief and accept that leading a normal life in western countries just isn't possible anymore. Infinite profit seeking is a cancer that's currently killing the host, and traditions of bourgeois paths to success just aren't viable. Everything's coming right on down and so many people are still in the stage of denial, which sucks because they always make it everyone else's problem until they get past the bargaining phase (which sort of seemed like what you were talking about here in terms of "role model example" being sufficient to save their kids from the total societal collapse in-progress).

        One of these places, I had to leave when it turned out there was also a pitbull they pretended wouldn't be loose in the back yard, but, turned out, was, and attacked me every time I went to the unit. (The pitbull was set loose a few weeks after the kid intercepting incidents abated).

        Living with someone else's pets isn't something I personally enjoy, so it's something I factor in when I have to look for a place. Although, let's be honest; who can realistically pick and choose these days? The scary thing is getting injured by someone else's pet and having to get screwed by medical bills if it's bad enough. Just no end to the debt trap landmine landscape in the liberal world.

        • outdated_belated@lemmy.sdf.org
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          10 months ago

          Well, everyone is going to have to get to the last stage of grief and accept that leading a normal life in western countries just isn’t possible anymore. Infinite profit seeking is a cancer that’s currently killing the host, and traditions of bourgeois paths to success just aren’t viable. Everything’s coming right on down and so many people are still in the stage of denial, which sucks because they always make it everyone else’s problem until they get past the bargaining phase (which sort of seemed like what you were talking about here in terms of “role model example” being sufficient to save their kids from the total societal collapse in-progress).

          So very well put. Right, the pyramid scheme seems to be toppling — in the metropole, it was sustainable for a generation or two, but even then only given the somewhat extraordinary circumstances (expansion of the neocolonial empire).