So there is a loneliness epidemic caused by capitalist alienation. However, I wonder if lack of material conditions also adds to this. I just keep seeing lots of my broke guy friends depressed because they can’t find a partner and it is so hard for them to meet new people. This makes me wonder if their financial situation is the main reason.

  • boboblaw [he/him, they/them]
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    10 months ago

    There's also the disturbing rise of "femcel" groups like /r/FemaleDatingStrategy, which seems to mirror the toxic ideology and tactics of incels. A large part of that is basically women doing the PUA thing to get a trophy husband, though that's largely in economic terms (salary might be prioritized over looks).

    • Black AOC@lemmygrad.ml
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      10 months ago

      You mean to tell me that wasn't just a false-flag bit the incels were perpetuating? Those are fuckin real?

      • boboblaw [he/him, they/them]
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        10 months ago

        Oh yeah, classic case of "the dream of the oppressed is to become the oppressor". I went through that subreddit a while back and was shocked to see how toxic and fucked up a mirror they'd made of incels.

        Lots of advice on abusive relationship tactics and how to be effectively controlling and manipulative. It read like a bunch of sociopaths trying to outdo the redpillers. I sympathized somewhat because I got the sense that many of them were victims of abuse and considered it a way to ensure they wouldn't be victimized again.

        Serious "fight fire with fire" vibes.

        Edit: Looks like that subreddit is dead now, and they've moved on to another platform. Maybe they were risking a ban due to all the rabid transphobia.

        Subscribers: 255,604

        Sub Description: Effective dating strategy for women that know what they want and prefer to be able to take control of their dating lives. Also includes strategies to maintain a relationship that benefits you. Plus tips on how to deal with some of the negative strategies from men that you encounter.

        Totally normal approach to dating. A relationship is a zero-sum game for domination and control. So why not play to win?

        Really disappointed I didn't see more complaining about the current meta. It's totally pay-to-win.