Fuck off, I specifically said that the OP should have checked the I.D and questioned the fact that he met the person at a kink event as it is standard practice for kink event organizers to make sure that everyone attending is over 21. You can self-crit for what you did in that post but I won't apologize for being compassionate to someone who was asking for help in a mental health community, while maintaining the fact that what he did was wrong. The responsibility was on him to ensure everyone involved in play was of age, able to consent, and maintaining consent. He failed to do so and I said as much in a way I felt was appropriate for the community & post, I was not in any way excusing a rapist and I'm offended you would say such a thing.
right on. also op never actually said kink event, just kink community, leading me to believe it was like a facebook group or something with no age verification at all.
Fuck off, I specifically said that the OP should have checked the I.D and questioned the fact that he met the person at a kink event as it is standard practice for kink event organizers to make sure that everyone attending is over 21. You can self-crit for what you did in that post but I won't apologize for being compassionate to someone who was asking for help in a mental health community, while maintaining the fact that what he did was wrong. The responsibility was on him to ensure everyone involved in play was of age, able to consent, and maintaining consent. He failed to do so and I said as much in a way I felt was appropriate for the community & post, I was not in any way excusing a rapist and I'm offended you would say such a thing.
right on. also op never actually said kink event, just kink community, leading me to believe it was like a facebook group or something with no age verification at all.