tbh, i like that my name was chosen before i was born. that way, aside from things like ethnicity and gender, it’s pretty much disconnected from who i am.

when i came out as trans and had to pick a new name i hated that i already had all these associations with them and i dreaded someone asking me why i picked those in particular. in the end i settled on two names my parents picked as girl names before i was born (which looking back i had already identified somewhat with when i first heard them as a kid).