If mayo is too spicy for you, gulag. If you eat ghost peppers because you want to feel pain, also gulag. All food shall be of average to moderately spiciness according to the opinion of a middle aged man from India. Seriously fuck chicken wing places that dab inedible hot sauce on the corpse of animal that died to be food that’s barely edible. White people, I fucking hate them.
Occasionally there are some foods where going real hot is great, like many Hunan dishes. Or a Szechuan dish where you'd be fairly unhappy with the spice level if it weren't balanced with numbing peppercorns and sugar. Or getting right up to the edge with a good habanero sauce to pair with Mexican food. I've also gotta admit that I like to eat a lot of hot mirchi bajjis in a row.
But most of the time, 100% agree. Spicy food should have flavors aside from pain. A lot of people (kkkrackers) screw it up.