I was the same way. I fucking despise the "git gud" attitude and decided that I would never be able to enjoy the genre that gave rise to that phrase. But I ended up playing a game I didn't even realize was a soulslike until after I became addicted to it. Ever since I've been fascinated by the way that kind of game with that set of mechanics can really hook a person in to the world and into learning and developing the strategy needed to further uncover it.