Hexbear's new head of operations just dropped, and their way of dealing with the fallout of their last struggle session is to hand bans out like candy to their concerned and disillusioned users while throwing out "epic" quips like insecure teenagers along the way coupled with their communication (and seemingly contempt) towards their own userbase which isn't helping their allegations at all and the revelations that were learned about Hexbear's moderators and admins from their most recent struggle session.

The last few days have honestly shaken my faith in Hexbear and their team and I hope the mods and admins at Lemmygrad are monitoring the situation closely.

  • robinn_ [none/use name]
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    4 days ago

    Please don't feel embarrassed.

    Below pedantry.

    keyword: daily. I already compared it to another social situation where something is also not mandatory, but it is expected.

    It’s not expected. There is no expectation that you must post daily, or ever, that you “love your trans comrades.” You compared it to another social situation, I asked for evidence posting in these threads is taken into account somehow like with that example and you said I was in a cult.

    You’re quoting Gribbli for the daily point, but they didn’t literally mean daily. This doesn’t happen daily on like a schedule where you’re expected to post this, or even where anybody posts this. It happens often but if that’s your keyword, your argument is washed. You can access all posts on Hexbear, so tell me where this is posted daily.

    So the thread was a ruse, feigning a daily ritual to provoke those who don't belong in revealing themselves, all the while the ritual's true purpose was obvious for those in the know.

    It’s not a daily ritual. You know nothing about Hexbear and yet you feel like you can critique the site culture. You’re actually embarrassing yourself. No, the point of people posting that they “love their trans comrades” is both to show support and to make the site’s position clear and turn away/root out any anti-trans users. These aren’t mutually exclusive.

    I'm trying to give you an outsider's perspective

    You’re an outsider times two. You’re going off the word of another outsider and extrapolating that to spin up this idea that users saying they love their trans comrades is some daily ritual that users will be rewarded for or punished for not completing. You have no clue what you’re talking about.

    • Gribbli@lemmygrad.ml
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      4 days ago

      Now I feel kinda bad for airing old hexbear semi-drama. Really didn't mean for anyone to try to make a point with it, just wanted to state my own experience :\

    • multitotal@lemmygrad.ml
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      4 days ago

      they didn’t literally mean daily.

      Well, I wouldn't know.

      You know nothing about Hexbear and yet you feel like you can critique the site culture.

      This is true.

      It’s not a daily ritual.

      Not a daily ritual then, but a ritual nonetheless.

      to show support and to make the site’s position clear and turn away/root out any anti-trans users. These aren’t mutually exclusive.

      Yes, it can be all those things and still be a ritual

      Rituals are meaningful actions marked by rigidity, formality, and repetition.

      "to show support"

      Group rituals promote cognitive, affective, and behavioral group commitment.

      "to make the site’s position clear"

      Group rituals not only signal commitment (external) but enhance it internally.

      "turn away/root out any anti-trans users"

      Rituals are a normal part of human life, we have all sorts of rituals. That said, rituals on websites are weird.

      that users will be rewarded for or punished for not completing

      I never said that. But I will bet you that people who are regulars in those sorts of threads look more favourably on each other. Why are we pretending like I invented the concept of feeling belonging to a group? What I am saying is not controversial. You claim I got it wrong, but then confirm my assumptions, and then you get angry about it.

      I am sorry if the word "cult" rubbed you the wrong way, it was hyperbole, I didn't mean to insult anyone. Much like "daily thread" doesn't mean literally daily. I don't mean that you are literally in a cult. Hexbear seems to engage in rituals that strengthen group belonging, I am not making a value judgment wrong or right, I think it's weird and I don't like it.

      • Nakoichi [they/them]
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        4 days ago

        You know nothing about Hexbear and yet you feel like you can critique the site culture.

        This is true.

        No investigation, no right to speak.

      • robinn_ [none/use name]
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        4 days ago

        Alright, you wouldn’t know anything about this. Then there’s nothing else to say.

        I didn’t confirm your assumptions, I already responded to this. Call it a ritual if you like, I don’t care. Genuinely just semantics. The argument comes in when you say that it’s weird and you “don’t like it” (welcome back Kamala!!).

        I never said that. But I will bet you that people who are regulars in those sorts of threads look more favourably on each other.

        So? You could say that for any thread. People interact with each other and share viewpoints and form connections. How sinister!! This is not the same as what you said before. You now this.