yeah, the reason i give discord leeway is i think it's a place where you're more likely to build like, a lasting connection with someone or whatever, like make real internet friends, than scrolling-based social media. which i think is a fair mark in its favour, as that's a good option to have for those struggling to build irl connections. but it definitely can end up causing the same patterns like you say. i just have a small, not super active friendcord now, i left any public ones i was addicted to.