My condolences to their son. Full thread if you want to feel bad for their children: https://twitter.com/herong/status/1515846706394501123?s=21

  • SocialistDad [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    They’re fostering an 18yo and are surprised that they’re trauma dumping? Holy shit they’re a lawyer they gotta know what kinda shit they were getting into.

    That said, the phrasing does make more sense when you’ve realize they don’t fully consider them “theirs” yet. That’s a really fresh relationship

    • silent_water [she/her]
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      3 years ago

      even so, this is a very young person who's trying to rely on the only adult in their life. and this person knowingly took that on themselves. fostering a kid means volunteering to help them through their problems - you don't have to do it, it's something you volunteer for. to try and shirk that responsibility after agreeing to it is extremely shitty.

      • SocialistDad [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        Yeah I grew up in foster care and am resisting the urge to rage on this whole situation. I remember what it’s like to meet an adult who’s only like a decade older than you and suddenly they’re your sole authority figure and confidant overnight. I don’t know what the legal status of this relationship is. I just assumed “tentatively adopted” wasn’t literal. And I know CPS does that “you’ve already signed onto one kid, so do you want their sibling?” thing all the time. Regardless, it seems like a similar situation and she is not handling it well