Yeah I know what you mean I think. I tend to think that I'd rather feudal society (esp nobility) not be whitewashed and be presented with all the fucked up horrible shit that they got up to for sure. I get that, and for the first few books before it becomes a sorta convoluted farting about worldbuilding exercise it does that fairly well.

However what I don't really enjoy about the tv show and to a degree the books is the sheer depth of detail it goes into with such scenes and how the tv show definately leans into turning those scenes into wank material.