I looked into Purity Balls and shit, and what the actual fuck? Is this a product of toxic masculinity? Why has no one stopped this?

  • redthebaron [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    like it comes from two thing first these things generally are like people justifying violence they would like to engage by saying well if it WAS MY DAUGHTER I WOULD KILL etc etc you are just thinking a situation where most people would probably not think you are wrong in being violence second kids are easily misconstructed on parents minds that they are a extension of them thus if my daughter had sex before the marriage it would be like that dude fucked ME or something on that mindset

      • Wmill [they/them]
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        4 years ago

        Yeah projection all the way. Ironically I think they might be onto something in a weird self fulling prophecy kind of way. First in that their possessive behavior will lead their kids to date in secret. Second and this might take some time to explain, but I always thought we learned what love is from the people who raised us. Basically Freud in that we marry our parents. A lot of their kids will mimic or be attracted to their parent's abusive behavior in others thinking that is what normal relationships are and end up miserable like their own parents.