Why the hell does this keep happening? I still hear horror stories of how people struggle for half of their lives and nobody stops to think "this isn't normal, we should see a doctor" and it just infuriates me.

Please, if it is negatively effecting your life or you get into arguments about it and it's effecting your social or home life, see a doctor.

  • Wiz@midwest.social
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    3 days ago

    It's me in this clown makeup and I don't like it.

    College was really hard for me. A big bundle of distractions at a vulnerable age in my life. I about failed out twice out of STEM degrees. I finally found a Liberal Arts degree that I could get a BA in.

    Then a few years later, I had married somewhat. I went back and completed by STEM degree, somehow.

    Now I'm back at it again 20+ years later, working on my Masters in IT. It takes all of my ADHD coping skills. Making lists. Exercise. Counseling. Supporting friends and family.

    It's possible, but it's hard.

    • BeAware_@lemmy.dbzer0.comM
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      3 days ago

      It's possible! Sure! If you know you have it in the first place...mental disability deniers all around me...😒

      • Wiz@midwest.social
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        2 days ago

        I was able to get an adult ADD diagnosis in my 50s from my mental health counselor. Which was forwarded to my PCP. Only then I was allowed to start meds.

        I have heard it's notoriously hard to get a diagnosis as an adult.

  • Wxnzxn@lemmy.ml
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    2 days ago

    EDIT: Oh, whooops, I genuinely misread the subreddit as being the autism memes one, I'll still leave this one here, that rant felt too good to delete.

    Yes, I feel this one so much. Only make it "in my thirties" - and I completely internalised my masking, leading to self-hatred and inability to properly overcome it. I got misdiagnosed with a whole slew of different disorders over the course of my life, too. Which made me try so fucking hard to do what is right and push myself again and again, only to break down into long phases of complete withdrawal, burnout and depression every damn time, even though I did "the right things" to overcome stuff like anxiety and depression. Now, to be fair, it's correct to be noted that throughout that life, I also developed a personality disorder from internalising all those things I heard, being lazy, having to remain restrained in my behaviour at every moment, questioning and repressing every intuitive emotion out of fear of it being "wrong".

    I only very recently ended up being able to recontextualise all the prior shit in my life, am currently in a phase where I am reconnecting with my anger, which I had forbidden myself completely and repressed it deeply into my unconscious in my early teens, after having had daily aggressive meltdowns in my childhood, which led to both physical violence and deep shaming and essentialist shaming of me "being wrong" by my parents. And looking back at my life, considering I was in different kinds of psychological and psychiatric care almost my whole life, I simply don't understand how no one even considered autism at any point. Yeah, sure, it was not as well known as today in all its details, but the more I reflect, the more things I discover in my past that were just clear signs even back then.

  • keepcarrot [she/her]
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    3 days ago

    I got diagnosed pretty early compared to most of my friends, and it still got attributed to laziness.