cw: abuse
My father used to hurl verbal abuse at me and call me a bitch for arguing back. My mother told me I was half to blame once he started to get physically violent because I was always "provoking him." I thought I really was an evil, angry, awful person!
Now that I've escaped all that I have a huge appreciation for the part of me that is a fighter. I speak up when people are treating me or others poorly. I've been the only one to notice when others were being creeped on and violated and I've been the only one angry enough to do something about it. Sometimes it is stressful how little others seem to care, or how hesitant they are to start conflict, and it makes me worry occasionally if I'm really the one causing discord. But I've gotten enough thank-yous from people I've stood up for to finally convince myself that this is a good quality of mine, not a bad one.
I tend to infodump on particular subjects (video games, movies, comic books) and for a long time I was convinced that I talked too much and that I was boring people
Turns out that a lot of cool people actually appreciate my depth of knowledge on stuff and love hearing my opinions on things
I used to think being a weirdo loner was bad and lame. now that I'm in my 40s, it turns out to be good and cool.
I am very stubborn. I worry that it could be annoying. When I was young it was a problem and I would be picked on. Today people actually usually like my conviction (￢‿￢ )
changing what you believe for literally no reason or doing things you don't believe in because it's convenient is straight bullshit.
sorry straight people.
Protip: if you never have children this strategy makes you immortal
I guess I can get overwhelmed sometimes from other's people's emotions. It is great when I'm able to calm down and read people. Once the negative talk in my head calms down I feel like I can almost predict what going through someone's head if that makes sense.
Read through it and feel like it fits me to a T. For a while I used the word codependent because it was the only word I knew but maybe this to. Thanks for showing me this.
Being stubbornly independent and resistant to the points of view of others has made it impossible for me to be a good employee or wage earner. It is also very likely to give me an awesome life within a year. Up until 36 it was nothing but a burden and a source of disappointment for everyone who depended on me financially. Jokerfication can work under certain circumstances.
Can you say what your future career is, without doxxing yourself? (don't dox yourself)
Extreme procrastination. It upsets my workflow but it forces me to confront to the emotional and mental sources of why I’m trying to put something off, as opposed to just bottling it in. I just wish I didn’t internalize that I was “lazy” for so long.
I can relate to this a lot, and only realized it recently. When I procrastinate it's not just because the thing to do bores me, or because I want to do something else. There's an actual reason, and I should confront it.
I want a whole thread on this. Damn.
Recently I procrastinated a whole day's of work sitting through video effects tutorials. My job or my passions are not even in VFX lol, I just imagine "holy shit how cool would it be if I could create something like this" and instantly my job becomes boring and useless.
This might be less of a character flaw and more because my WFH job is useless poorly paid and nobody gives a fuck enough to notice my lack of work. Ironically I'm now yearning for a somewhat stricter job so I don't spend all day on Chapo Chat
I'll never forget putting off a single assignment for an entire day, feeling like shit about it and finally completing it easily within the span of 30 minutes and submitting it last minute before midnight. That forced me to actually look at it differently.
I've got Schizoid Personality Disorder and it's great.
what is this like in your experience? i think i know a couple people with it and it certainly has made them excel at a lot of professional things (if i'm getting the disorder right)
I have irritable bowel syndrome and have escaped many awkward situations by taking a shit
i grew up more isolated than most kids and i had bad social anxiety through high school as a result. even without realizing it at first i was paranoid about what other people thought about me and constantly monitoring every social situation
i feel that getting enough exposure to people on top of that, especially at summer camps, made me reasonably in tune with other people's emotions in group settings and a pretty good listener.
The combination of picking up new hobbies for a month and incessantly needing to know every detail about how and why everything happens in said hobbies means I have a lot of random skills and knowledge that can be helpful in weird cases, and means I'm utterly unafraid of DIY. Mechanic wants to charge me $100 to replace this $20 part? Yeah I'll give it a go. Friend needs their phone screen replaced? Nbd, bring it over next weekend. Something else broke? It's got screws on it let's take it apart , whats the worst that can happen, it breaks more?
For me, I was led to believe that I held excessively long grudges and mistrust towards people.
Um, YES! For the longest time, I've had people in my life shit on me (I'm a nice person). When I've tried to talk to them or get an apology, it's been "why can't you just get over it, ButtBidet". Good for you for having boundaries.
