How many times in grade school did you hear a teacher, administrator or whoever say something along the lines of "a good attitude is the key to success," or "not with that attitude?" or some variation. It occurs to me that your attitude is a symptom, a derivative feature, of your inner existence, like a fever and cough is a symptom of a cold. Whether you have a serious issue in your life, from home problems to depression, anxiety, etc., or not, you're attitude is your own personality filtered through that lived experience or hardship, a change in attitude is a symptom of that stress. It would be like a cancer patient asking if the doctor thinks they'll live and hearing "not with a white blood cell count like that!"
This is just a stray train of thought, what do you guys think?
I say "not with that attitude" a lot as a joke because of how fucked up an unhelpful it is.
Like, there are definitely benefits to trying to maintain a PMA going into a tough situation. But like, as an outsider, you gotta approach interactions with people with a sense of empathy first and foremost.