• stereofony@lemm.ee
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    10 months ago

    From a fellow trans person: I know you mean well, but shame/ridicule is the least effective agent of change. This kind of attitude I hear not just from you but other leftist queer friends just straight up leaves a bad taste in people's mouths and does nothing to convince folks of your cause, no matter how good your intentions are. To quote a Tshirt I once saw: Kindness is more punk rock than a middle finger.

    Collective care and justice should be rooted in compassion, not denigration and superiority complexes.

    • ThereRisesARedStar [she/her, they/them]
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      10 months ago

      superiority complexes.

      TIL needing to mask for health reasons is a superiority complex.

      I'm not going to address any of the rest of your comment except to say, stop tone policing a shitpost. The point was to vent about a genuine frustration, not to convince anyone. And just don't tone police in general.

      • stereofony@lemm.ee
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        10 months ago

        Sorry, but somewhere along the way in leftist circles, "don't tone police me" became synonymous with "I'm allowed to be as shitty as I want to other people because of my trauma" and that's the behavior I can't get down with. Trauma is an explanation, not an excuse.

    • Kuori [she/her]
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      10 months ago

      yeah we are pretty pro-bullying people who are doing shitty things over on hexbear, this isn't going to land

        • Kuori [she/her]
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          10 months ago

          we are of the same mind on this. frankly, i don't care in the slightest about the feelings of people who won't put any effort into protecting the lives of others.

      • ThereRisesARedStar [she/her, they/them]
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        10 months ago

        I'm more on the "bullying bad, shaming with explanation of how to fix your behavior good" train myself, at least when the goal isn't just to make shitheads be quiet.

        • Kuori [she/her]
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          10 months ago

          i get you, my issue is that we're beyond the event horizon, you know? these people have had the explanations. they don't care, and their not caring kills innocent people. as far as i'm concerned, it's open season on shitheads.

    • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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      10 months ago

      To quote a Tshirt I once saw: Kindness is more punk rock than a middle finger.

      Wow. Everything you said before this swayed me but this is such an awesome statement that I had to say thanks for expanding my vernacular.