This is an admin post, intended for blahaj lemmy users. Top level posts from members of other instances will be removed.
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After recent events, it feels to me that sentiment has shifted and more people are asking for defederation of hexbear than previously.
I've been doing my best to try and mend bridges and keep us connected, as it's my hope that we can maintain trans solidarity and work with them, despite the friction, however, ultimately, I feel that this is an issue for the blahaj lemmy community to decide, not the admins alone.
So here's what we're going to do.
We're going to leave things as they are for a week. That will give time for things to calm down whilst we see if we can work together. After a week, I'll put up a vote and get a feel for where the community is at in regards to our continued federation with hexbear. That poll will run for a week. If there is a strong will to defederate (a clear majority), then that's what we will do.
Are you suggesting that you expect to be called slurs by the overwhelmingly queer users of Hexbear, who swiftly ban anyone using basically any kind of slur, and whose mods have recently had comments removed for calling out users on this instance for using slurs???
Also, that particular incident is a prime example of the problem.
Here, we’re used to de-escalate and talk about stuff. That poster has started at least three threads just escalating and escalating.
We’re just not compatible.
The hell? I do not understand why anyone would remove the first of those comments, and the second is a bit abrasive but still not moderation-worthy, imo.