I feel you. I feel the same way about voice chats. But something that changed my perspective a lot was seeing disability advocates talk about how a lot of that effect isnt really your fault, that communication issues between people are two sided and when its an Alltistic person and autistic person its not up to the autistic person to rise to the standards of the alltistic person only. There was a really good blog idk if it still exists called "real social skills" that focused on this, where some of it was tips for autistic people communicating but a LOT of it was tips on how NT people can better communicate with autistic people.

its social model of disability stuff I guess.