The fundamental problem is that Hexbear (and the rest of the Anglo social media sites) is it's filled with mayos who have never dealt with people who have skin color darker than a sheet of paper. This is how you get people here making asinine jokes that replacing c/k with kkk is somehow "standard Maoist English." Like, just how fucking out of touch are you? At this point, Hexbear (and every other Lemmy instance where a European language is used) will never not be awkward about race. I don't blame you or any other POC for quitting Hexbear because the amount of mayos is off-putting. I'm not sure how POC accounts can feel welcome here if those racist crackers at that other thread haven't been banned yet. Those bigoted losers would be long gone if they were saying transphobic shit, but they still get to keep their accounts for being racist shitheads. Why the double standard?

The only way for a POC-friendly social media site to take off is if doxxing your face is build in to the social media site itself, whether through technological or social means. Black Twitter works because there's the social understanding that if your avi isn't your Black face, you're not really Black. Black Reddit works because mods require people to show their arm with their username written on it. Outside of those little pockets where you have to doxx yourself or learning a non-European language in order to use that language's social media sites, there's really no hope for any POC to feel safe or welcome.