I want to give you props for asking a genuine question and learning from it, but I also have some gentle criticism to give. You referred to TomboyShulk as “they” a couple of times in your post. It’s good etiquette to try to use people preferred pronouns, so in this case you should use “she” instead of they.

We’re pretty serious about this here since one of the core values of hexbear is being aggressively pro-trans. Please don’t take this criticism as an attack though, and please continue to ask any questions you have. We’ve got tons of smart people that can help explain anything else relating to the trans experience