I will caveat this by saying I like how groups with explicitly avoiding overly nsfw stuff can make a much safer and comfortable environ in general. That said, it certainly has resulted in certain online spaces where it feels like a tug-of-war of a weird puritanical environ I'm glad I've gotten away from, to a fetishization of queer people and life that put me in someone else's shoes for a second. Like, I'm a bisexual dude but and have fit in well enough in straight and gay spaces, but sometimes the jokes and the amendments on anti-horni action when applying to queer stuff has me like, "is this how I've made people feel?" It's only the briefest glimmer and most times my sexuality has be fetishized I've got the benefit of being a cis dude in specific communities and situations where it can rightfully get a pass till I voice any concern. I dunno, just semi-ranting if I'm the only one who feels a bit awkward in some online situations and groups. Irl, it's very rarely been a problem. That said and done, much kudos on Hexbear for trying to try a happy medium. P.S. I'll delete or won't relent to a mod deleting this should my confused rant ruffle feathers or straight up offend people.