But even some progressive gay white men say they feel alienated from a movement they see becoming more radical, particularly online, where the tenor of conversation is often uncivil.
Hot take: I'm honestly, vocally sick of settler-gay men who demand that you handle them with kid gloves when their entire existence within the community is an existence blanketed in microaggression at best, when they're not being outright full-on macroaggressive about someone that 'doesn't fit their "preference"'; and I'm genuinely glad people are starting to talk about it.
This is something that's been pretty clear for quite a long time. Easiest example I can point to is that time the HRC threw the trans community under the bus to try to push for gay rights instead. I've been very keenly aware of the divide from the time I was a babby transfemme. I've hated the idea that we should assimilate into society and even back when I couldn't articulate it, knew that shit was fucked. There were some really cool guys I knew in college, and there were the allies and other gay men that saw transness as a bit of a goof and not worth respecting.