But even some progressive gay white men say they feel alienated from a movement they see becoming more radical, particularly online, where the tenor of conversation is often uncivil.
Hot take: I'm honestly, vocally sick of settler-gay men who demand that you handle them with kid gloves when their entire existence within the community is an existence blanketed in microaggression at best, when they're not being outright full-on macroaggressive about someone that 'doesn't fit their "preference"'; and I'm genuinely glad people are starting to talk about it.
The secret sauce is liberalism. I'd argue that's the core ideology, not the quazi-racial construct of whiteness... though when it comes to world view and politics they may as well be synonymous. I've run into a fair share of black and brown queer people who parrot the anti-radical talking points like they grew up in white NIMBY neighborhoods with zero self awareness.
That's turncoat misleaders; we've been dealing with their like since Jim Crow.