It's always the patriarchal conquerors like the Ancient Romans or the Ancient Greeks that they idolize and never the people like, say, the Picts or the Celts or the Gaul that rebelled against the brutal Roman empire. It's never the Scottish or the Irish heroes who fought back against the British Empire that followed in Rome's footsteps. None of them probably even know who Boudica is.
Ironically, a lot of the stuff you could call "white culture" was burnt at the stake, banned, brutalized, and literally demonized by the Empires that chuds think are so civilized. A lot of pagan culture was lost to time, or warped by Roman 'scholars' for propaganda purposes. If they truly cared about their 'culture', then "Muh Christian trad wife' would be seen as killing the identity of pagan women, rather than an aspiration.
Although a pater familias could do that, it was still weird to do.
Also, they do not speak of death and dying more than any other ancient culture. The problem is we mostly have stories of political figures or generals, mythical or religious texts, and funerary inscriptions. These things tend to discuss death pretty often. People also just died a lot, and the death of animals wasn't something you could forget about when they were butchered in front of you.