Yeah, while I feel a fair amount of sympathy, it's absolutely the responsibility of the older party in situations where it's even remotely plausible the person is under 18. You should adopt the bottleo rule "If you look under 25 you're getting carded" (Age of drinking is 18 here). Dude fucked up bad and it is his fault. You're an adult, do the adult thing. And the adult thing is to make sure you don't get into shitty situations like this.
Even then, if you're over 25, having a relationship with anyone who hasn't gotten a bachelor's degree (or worked for an equivalent time) is a little sus. I'm not gonna disallow it because there are shitty social consequences from going too far with that, but it is a red flag that needs a whole heap of green flags to overcome.
Yeah, while I feel a fair amount of sympathy, it's absolutely the responsibility of the older party in situations where it's even remotely plausible the person is under 18. You should adopt the bottleo rule "If you look under 25 you're getting carded" (Age of drinking is 18 here). Dude fucked up bad and it is his fault. You're an adult, do the adult thing. And the adult thing is to make sure you don't get into shitty situations like this.
Even then, if you're over 25, having a relationship with anyone who hasn't gotten a bachelor's degree (or worked for an equivalent time) is a little sus. I'm not gonna disallow it because there are shitty social consequences from going too far with that, but it is a red flag that needs a whole heap of green flags to overcome.