hi all. I have some Japanese friends who I occasionally speak Japanese with. A mutual I've found out uses they/them pronouns in English, and I want to correctly gender them when speaking Japanese.
I know あいつ/こいつ but I'm not sure if it's used by enbies in Japanese. meanwhile using XXX-san/XXX exclusively without pronouns seems clunky? I know you can get away with both using name and also omitting pronouns more easily than English e.g. "XXX-san来ましたか?" "はい、来ました" so I'm using that for now.
Sorry this question is meandering and I'm second guessing myself. Hope someone can cast some light
Thanks very much for the reply! I'll definitely use あの人 where appropriate. あいつ doesn't pass muster in the social context.