• AOCapitulator [they/them]
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    3 months ago

    I'm pretty sure you're genuine, and if that is the case, I hope you will be able to figure out why you were lumped in with the rest, and hope it doesn't happen again because you learn the lesson

    Also, I will definitely admit that I was very annoyed and could have been nicer about it,and on the off chance you're actually genuine hey sorry. But that's not the important thing, 'being nicer about it' is a personal decision not a moral necessity. The "it" we're being "nicer" about is often something horrifying, like when people got upset at Aaron Bushnell for his self immolation, who were more upset about THAT than they are about what's happening to innocent bystanders in Palestine. No one is required to put up with someone's bullshit just for the purpose of helping them learn and grow. Its good to do in the few times when that is possible...

    but here?

    on the internet? Its 1/1000 interactions where that's possible, and 1/2 of the time we're dealing with actual nazis and people who support and encourage systems that target us for extermination, us being any marginalized identities, which hexbear mostly is in one way or another, not just because we're leftists, but also most are trans and/or queer and/or poc and/or neurodivergent etc etc. We have been around for years and over those years, have grown to recognize civility bullshit for what it always was. And recognize what it means when people are upset about criticism of privileged behavior that demonstrate the contradictions inherent to our current system. To see that an not react harshly against it is no different than contributing to it yourself

    To hear incorrect views without rebutting them and, but instead to take them calmly as if nothing had happened.

    That's why many people in this thread reacted negatively to the comments we did. Clear enough?

    • stoy@lemmy.zip
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      3 months ago

      After reading about why .zip can be seen as bad, I do understand it better, I genuinely didn't know about the reputation of the instance.

      Learned my lesson?

      I have gained more understanding, but there was no lesson to be learned here.

      • AOCapitulator [they/them]
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        3 months ago

        Also sorry for splitting our conversation over two separate threads, it was a bit confusing and added to my frustration

        • stoy@lemmy.zip
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          3 months ago

          I can see that, to be honest I am also having quite a lot of trouble keeping the story straight myself.