(while this is inspired by meta events this isnt a meta post its just feelings im having about it right now. Im going to have to vageuly explain that without being too specific though).

When you have like, wholesome motives for something, and someone imposes untoward motives for the thing. That sucks a lot!

Ive always had trouble with people like... imposing thoughts when only I own and control my brain. My mom used to like, accuse me of being selfish for things like, say, when our adult cousins came over to help with some work on the house, and I sat in my room relaxing because it was the weekend, and she started yelling at me that Im supposed to ask to help. And my problem was she was accusing me of being actively negligent by not doing so when it was more that my brain never even thought of that in the first place. I wasnt being malicious because its not like I thought of it and proactivly ignored it. I just didnt think of it.

And now today I had warm family emotions towards an image and shared it with others, and they impsosed sexual motives towards me that I didnt have. And that really upset me because my feelings about the image werent about that at all.

I just wish people wouldnt assume like that.

  • autismdragon [he/him, comrade/them]
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    2 months ago

    Its inspired by something that happened here but I dont want to focus on the meta which is why I started with another example from childhood. I really dont want it to be a subtweet. I know now that I shouldnt have posted that image here anyway. It was a bad audience for that.

    • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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      2 months ago

      This site is utter garbage a lot of the time to ND people. I don’t think it’s unique to it, it’s just the nature of… every single space ever pretty much

      Edit: The “bullying works” belief doesn’t help at all. I understand that it’s necessary for liberals and Hitlerites who are adamantly and explicitly cringe with cringe motives, but applying it to people who we just assume are bad because of vibes is not… great

    • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
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      2 months ago

      Which sucks, but y'know. Again it is also true generally that people fuckin loooooove deciding our motives and then attacking us for funsies.