cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2766019

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Without getting into too much detail...I have been abused by women most of my life. I finally ended an abusive marriage with a female narcissist. I have never really struggled with this issue up until recently.

I am finding that I am often dismissed and not believed when I try to discuss this issue, even to therapists and my lawyer (all whom have also been female). I have almost no resources or support. There are no men's groups for this issue in my area. Often online I will see people mock people like myself. I have even had people on socialist sites dismiss situations like mine. It is beyond frustrating.

I understand how it is and I know that patriarchy and misogyny are still huge issues, but I've noticed myself feeling very resentful towards a lot of women recently and sometimes veer into misogynistic thoughts.

I don't want to be like this, but I am struggling.

Any advice on what I can do to control these thoughts and retrain my brain?

  • sir_this_is_a_wendys [he/him]
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    16 days ago

    Thank you. I don't think that way often. I am still an empathetic, kind person. I still want to find love some day. I think if I just continue to work on myself and be the best person I can be, I will have better people in my life.

    Part of the issue is I had no standards for myself. Now that I have raised them, I have removed a lot of people from my life. I have been mistreated by men as well, but that doesn't quite have the same stigma.