People really shouldn't be at all surprised that cis men have an absurd amount of hang-ups about how they want to be desired and how being desired or not-desired affects their self-worth. It's really not that crazy to want to be desired both in a seemingly shallow immediate sexual manner and in a deep emotional one.
You'd like to think they're into you for more than just... Being a stable person or whatever.
It’s why I find it strange when people repeat the sentiment of “the bar is very low. just be normal and a woman will give you a chance.” This is like the other end of the spectrum for being “a nice guy,” where somehow it’s a good thing that someone actually takes interest in you for just being “nice” without really being attracted to you otherwise
Is it really just cis men? No queer people would feel insulted if their partner implied they had no other desirable qualities besides being “a good person”?
Come on now. Neither did I even write anything about queer people (which I wouldn't do since I'm not queer) nor did what I write in any way imply that this might be exclusive to cis men or cis people in general.
No queer people would feel insulted if their partner implied they had no other desirable qualities besides being “a good person”?
Now really come on, you couldn't even really call that a bad-faith interpretation of the original post, that's just making up words that literally weren't even said and putting them in quotes.
I didn’t make up any words lol. I was asking a question because I don’t know if OP’s experiences were any different. Chill out. And the quotes were my own because “a good person” means a million things to a million people, but it was referencing the reddit post which implies their boyfriend was simply “a good person” and nothing else.
Was out with my partner of over a decade and a load of her friends, she and some others started talking about exes (gymbros specifically) and my partner brought up one of hers that was a runway model that she didn't like because he was dull and only wanted to be at the gym. I was off having a different conversation as I got called over by one of her friends to get 'congratulated' on being chosen over that thanks to having a better personality. Didn't really feel like a compliment to me, but I think it was supposed to be.
People really shouldn't be at all surprised that cis men have an absurd amount of hang-ups about how they want to be desired and how being desired or not-desired affects their self-worth. It's really not that crazy to want to be desired both in a seemingly shallow immediate sexual manner and in a deep emotional one.
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It’s why I find it strange when people repeat the sentiment of “the bar is very low. just be normal and a woman will give you a chance.” This is like the other end of the spectrum for being “a nice guy,” where somehow it’s a good thing that someone actually takes interest in you for just being “nice” without really being attracted to you otherwise
Is it really just cis men? No queer people would feel insulted if their partner implied they had no other desirable qualities besides being “a good person”?
Come on now. Neither did I even write anything about queer people (which I wouldn't do since I'm not queer) nor did what I write in any way imply that this might be exclusive to cis men or cis people in general.
Now really come on, you couldn't even really call that a bad-faith interpretation of the original post, that's just making up words that literally weren't even said and putting them in quotes.
I didn’t make up any words lol. I was asking a question because I don’t know if OP’s experiences were any different. Chill out. And the quotes were my own because “a good person” means a million things to a million people, but it was referencing the reddit post which implies their boyfriend was simply “a good person” and nothing else.
Was out with my partner of over a decade and a load of her friends, she and some others started talking about exes (gymbros specifically) and my partner brought up one of hers that was a runway model that she didn't like because he was dull and only wanted to be at the gym. I was off having a different conversation as I got called over by one of her friends to get 'congratulated' on being chosen over that thanks to having a better personality. Didn't really feel like a compliment to me, but I think it was supposed to be.