"Why don't you want to come to my wedding?"
"I want to come but I can't afford a ticket overseas."
"Whatever, if you want to stay home and miss out on life that's your decision I guess."
Apparently me saying no to this wedding was the last straw for them, because they're always asking me to do things I can't afford and they don't seem to understand why I can't despite me telling them every time that I am poor. So now I'm the bad person because I'm totally being poor and "holding myself back" on purpose.
If they want to burn this bridge they can fuck right off. I've had enough of this shit.
the one and only "destination" wedding I went to was on a weekend, about an 6 hr road trip away. 4 of piled into a car, I only had to drive 2 hours of it. and we all crashed in one room of a big rented beach house the family of the bride had provided and they provided the food for us and drink. the ceremony was a short walk away, "come as you are" on the beach at dusk. it was a long weekend, but I don't think any of us went out of pocket more than $30 total for gas and maybe a rehearsal dinner+drinks type of thing at a chill seafood joint. the haul was a lot, but we were all pretty close, young and eager for a chill road trip to the coast.
I've been to a lot of weddings, but the coolest people always think of making it easier on the community they want to be there and support them.
people who make it about stunting on everyone they know and making a lot of flaunting flash don't have any clue about what brings people together in marriage, friendship, or community and can be safely discarded.