Please chime in with the type of content and discussion you would like to see hear.
I’ve left up all the old posts instead of doing a thorough pruning (apparently it closed due to a lack of moderation letting too much slip through the cracks). If you’re interested in helping out without posting or moderating please report actively, while there is value in calling out in the comments and trying to teach leaving anything egregious up for too long could promote people blocking the comm even if they might otherwise want to see the “good” posts and/or milder learning opportunities.
Should probably do a poll on whether to be local only as well once it’s active again. So Sopranos emotes if you have an opinion on that.
Cheers
Actually, I should take this more seriously. So, I have an extremely deeply-rooted fear, and tbh also kind of resentment, over the experience of being persistently socially ostracized & isolated for all of my childhood, and much of my adulthood. This is itself basically a function of me being autistic, and having been placed in special education from a very young age. I've always understood myself to be distinct from, and in a sense, less capable than everybody else around me.
Today, this kind of manifests in a way as an obsession over trying to find romantic, and sexual successes (of which I have of course had none). This is because of a number of factors, but probably one of the biggest ones is age. I'm in my early/mid-thirties now, and it's difficult to do anything except hang around discord chat groups (which I also don't really do, because I'm terminally asocial), because pretty much anyone in my age-range IRL is going to be involved with their own families.
I have nieces, and a sister that I hang out with a lot, and I do like them; and apparently I am their favorite uncle, but also I don't really like being relegated to having basically the same social role as the robot from Big Hero Six.
It's all very frustrating.
I heavily relate to this. Shitty childhood from constantly moving, being different from everyone around me and being bullied to the point I was pulled out of multiple schools, and the subsequent lack of being socialized properly. Probably not autistic, but definitely borderline.
It really does feel (sometimes) that I’ve missed the last boat, but something that helps me and might help you is not losing sight of that people do find love later in life. We can fix things and find somebody. It’s just going to take a lot of work. What that entails exactly is going to require somebody else who’s actually figured it out. We can get there though.
Congrats on being the favorite uncle! You’re doing something right for sure. I have not seen big hero six, so I hope that saying your family loving you isn’t diminishing the point you were getting at. I apologize if so.
If you have any ideas on turning this comm into a positive space please share them!
that guy got banned over some gross shit he said in the announcement.
i have some of empathy for his despair but our happiness isn't, our lives aren't, worth the subjugation of billions.