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MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 3 days ago

/C/MENBY BOOK CLUB SUGGESTION THREAD - please comment with any good books relating to feminist masculinity, patriarchy or gender from a left perspective

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/C/MENBY BOOK CLUB SUGGESTION THREAD - please comment with any good books relating to feminist masculinity, patriarchy or gender from a left perspective

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 3 days ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 18 days ago

"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 10, 11 and OVERALL Discussion

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"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 10, 11 and OVERALL Discussion

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 18 days ago

Breath_Of_The_Snake [they/them, comrade/them]M • 3 months ago

gender accelerationist manifesto (menby, read this!!!)

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gender accelerationist manifesto (menby, read this!!!)

Breath_Of_The_Snake [they/them, comrade/them]M • 3 months ago

Champoloo [he/him] • 2 days ago

What is masculinity anyway?!

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What is masculinity anyway?!

Champoloo [he/him] • 2 days ago

Assian_Candor [comrade/them] • 3 days ago

non-reactionary male focused podcasts

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non-reactionary male focused podcasts

Assian_Candor [comrade/them] • 3 days ago

AstroStelar [he/him] • 21 days ago

My messy ramblings about (my) masculinity, fitness and I guess also Mega Man Star Force

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My messy ramblings about (my) masculinity, fitness and I guess also Mega Man Star Force

AstroStelar [he/him] • 21 days ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 27 days ago

"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 8 and 9 Discussion

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"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 8 and 9 Discussion

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 27 days ago

PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS [he/him, they/them] • 27 days ago

Biphobia against men discourse popping tf off on Twitter today (CW: Homophobia)

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Biphobia against men discourse popping tf off on Twitter today (CW: Homophobia)

PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS [he/him, they/them] • 27 days ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 1 month ago

"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 6 and 7 Discussion

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"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 6 and 7 Discussion

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 1 month ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 1 month ago

"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 4 and 5 Discussion [CW: SA]

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"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 4 and 5 Discussion [CW: SA]

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 1 month ago

bubbalu [they/them] • 1 month ago

As an adjunct to 'The Will to Change', I strongly recommend 'Why Does he Do That?'

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As an adjunct to 'The Will to Change', I strongly recommend 'Why Does he Do That?'

bubbalu [they/them] • 1 month ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 2 and 3 Discussion

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"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Chapters 2 and 3 Discussion

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

bell hooks explained why Harry Potter sucks all the way back in 2004

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bell hooks explained why Harry Potter sucks all the way back in 2004

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Preface and Chapter 1 Discussion

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"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks BOOK CLUB - Preface and Chapter 1 Discussion

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

BOOK CLUB - "The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks - Announcement thread [Discussion begins 11/27]

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BOOK CLUB - "The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks - Announcement thread [Discussion begins 11/27]

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

/c/menby is officially reopened! (again!)

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/c/menby is officially reopened! (again!)

MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M • 2 months ago

Breath_Of_The_Snake [they/them, comrade/them]M • 7 months ago

The comm is open again

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The comm is open again

Breath_Of_The_Snake [they/them, comrade/them]M • 7 months ago

electricaltape [none/use name] • 2 years ago

It really do be tough for Asian guys out there...

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It really do be tough for Asian guys out there...

electricaltape [none/use name] • 2 years ago

popsickle [none/use name] • 2 years ago

Body dysmorphia in boys and men can fuel muscle obsession, doctors say

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Body dysmorphia in boys and men can fuel muscle obsession, doctors say

popsickle [none/use name] • 2 years ago

CommieElon [he/him] • 2 years ago

This is the type of man I want to be.

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This is the type of man I want to be.

CommieElon [he/him] • 2 years ago

menby

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A space for masculine folks to talk about living under patriarchy.

Detoxing masculinity since 1990!

You don’t get points for feminism, feminism is expected.

Guidelines:

Questions over blame
Humility over pride
Wisdom over dogma
Actions over image

Rules (expansions on the guidelines):

Mistakes should be learning experiences when possible.
- Do not attack comrades displaying vulnerability for what they acknowledge are mistakes.
- If you see good-faith behavior that's toxic, do your best to explain why it's toxic.
- If you don't have the energy to engage, report and move on.
- This includes past mistakes. If you've overcome extreme reactionary behavior, we'd love to know how.
- A widened range of acceptable discussion means a greater need for sensitivity and patience for your comrades.
- Examples:
  - "This is reactionary. Here's why."
  - "I know that {reality}, but I feel like {toxicity}"
  - "I don't understand why this is reactionary, but it feels like it {spoilered details}"
You are not entitled to the emotional labor of others.
- Constantly info-dumping and letting us sort through your psyche is not healthy for any of us.
- If you feel a criticism of you is unfair, do not lash out.
- If you can't engage self-critically, delete your post.
- If you don't know how to phrase why it's unfair, say so.
No singular masculine ideal.
- This includes promoting gender-neutral traits like "courage" or "integrity" as "manly".
- Suggestions for an individual to replace a toxic ideal is fine.
- Don't reinforce the idea the fulfillment requires masculinity.
- This also includes tendency struggle-sessions.
No lifestyle content.
- Post the picture of your new grill in !food (feminine people like grills too smh my head).
- Post the picture of the fish you caught in !sports (feminine people like fish too smdh my damn head).
- At best, stuff like this is off-topic. At worst, it's reinforcing genders norms..
- If you're not trying to be seen as masculine for your lifestyle content, it's irrelevant to this comm. If you are trying to be seen as masculine, let's have a discussion about why these things are seen as masculine.

Resources:

What is toxic masculinity?

*The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by Bell Hooks

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