Hello comrades, it's time for our first discussion thread for The Will to Change! Please share your thoughts below on the first two sections of the book. There's quite a lot to talk about between hooks' discussion of masculinity discourse within feminist circles, the ways both men and women uphold patriarchy, and the near universal experience of men being forced to suppress their rich emotional worlds from a young age. I'll be posting my thoughts in a little bit after I'm done with work.
If you haven't read the book yet but would like to, its available free on the Internet Archive in text form, as well as an audiobook on Youtube with content warnings at the start of each chapter, courtesy of the Anarchist Audio Library, and as an audiobook on our very own TankieTube! (note: the YT version is missing the Preface but the Tankietube version has it) Let me know if you'd like to be added to the ping list!
Our next discussion will be on Chapters 2 (Understanding Patriarchy) and 3 (Being a Boy), beginning on 12/4.
Thanks to everyone who is or will be participating, I'm really looking forward to hearing everyone's thoughts! 
I think a better frame to read the book through is 'what steps are necessary for women to feel safe and whole around/with men?' Being a principled philosopher/writer a lot of her descriptions of masculinity and patriarchy are meant to be evidence----not claims to completely understand men's perspective.
Some of my friends are poorly-dressed ogres but they have girlfriends because they treat them like people. So much of men's failures dating result from the self-preserving fear she admits to right in the beginning.
Interesting I hadn’t thought of it like that. Certainly the way I think I’ll approach the topics Hooks discusses. Also, can you give an example of what you mean by the self-preserving fear she discusses?