Not sure if this is the best comm for this post, but it really hit home with me, and is getting some good discussion in my circles.

  • Yuri_The_Red [none/use name]
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    4 years ago

    I knew I was the only poor person at my tech startup because I had the only fat body in the building. Gym membership was included in my benefits. I went half a dozen times before it was made crystal clear to me that I did not belong

    As a (formerly) poor and overweight person, I absolutely can't relate to this. Every single person I met at the gym was very supportive, my coworkers regularly offered me to join their free voleyball/basketball leagues and I was literally the biggest person in the building.

    I understand that a lot of it is ingrained self-loathing and shame and I experience it too, but I wouldn't project it onto other people, even though some of them are definitely shitty

      • Yuri_The_Red [none/use name]
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        4 years ago

        I'm not familiar with different cultures in US so it's hard for me to understand, but I appreciate the explanation

        • SerLava [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          They're saying that this is in a much less elitist-liberal sort of area.

          Southern California and the New York megalopolis are stereotypically shallow and elitist, while the Midwest kind of lets it hang out, is generally a lot friendlier, and less obsessed about appearance. But even in the Midwest they ran into those kind of classist rich snobs, which certainly exist.

    • LangdonAlger [any]
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      4 years ago

      Yeah I would guess it's a class/status thing more than a weight thing. Rich people use the gym to show off their Lulu outfit