• threebody [she/her]
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    11 months ago

    and surely there is a way, I dont believe the sexuality is not a choice shit, if I wasnt a communist theres no way I would have sex with a man. So there is surely some other way to get rid of heterosexuality?

    • cfgaussian@lemmygrad.ml
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      11 months ago

      I think it is just as impossible to "get rid of heterosexuality" as it is to get rid of non-heterosexuality.

    • DankZedong @lemmygrad.ml
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      11 months ago

      So I read your first comment above and then I read this and I got a bit lost. Is your problem that you have heterosexual tendencies and that you think that's wrong? Are you bisexual because you're communist?

      • DamarcusArt@lemmygrad.ml
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        11 months ago

        I think they might be assuming that all masculinity is toxic masculinity, or their tastes aren't as "vanilla" as they claimed in their original statement and they're projecting their own personal demons onto everyone else.

      • threebody [she/her]
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        11 months ago

        I mean, if I was not a communist I would not have been able to deconstruct my latent homophobia, and as a result not have been attracted by men, but there is no direct connection there

    • ☭ 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗘𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿 ☭@lemmygrad.mlM
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      11 months ago

      You don't believe that sexuality isn't a choice, meaning you believe that it is a choice? It's definitely not. And there's no reason a communist can't be heterosexual; that just means that you haven't been -- or at least aren't aware of ever having been -- attracted to someone of your gender (yet; you can't be sure that it'll never happen or that it hasn't happened without your knowledge)

      • threebody [she/her]
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        11 months ago

        the idea that sexuality is not a choice is a liberal copout that refuses to confront the very real sexual exploitation that our entire society is based on. in that case, are the millions of men whose sexuality literally involves violence towards women and queer people justified? There is clearly culpability. how could anyone be liberated if sexuality is thought of as something outside of the individual's control.

        • DankZedong @lemmygrad.ml
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          11 months ago

          Sexuality is not sex. People that are violent towards others in a sexual way do so without consent. You can be hetero and violent, gay and violent, pan and violent, etc. You having violent sexual fantasies is not linked with your sexuality, which is something that you cannot choose. Yes, our patriarchic society is in many ways sexually exploitative towards women and other minorities, but that does not mean being heterosexual is a bad thing. Also, there is no marxist view that says you cannot be heterosexual. That would be an extremely weird ideology.

          • threebody [she/her]
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            11 months ago

            Im not saying you cannot be heterosexual. I also dont have any violent sexual fantasies. Marxism also tells us higher education is heavily bourgeois and serves to maintain capitalism and exploit workers. Does that make education bad inherently? Of course not, but if you are going to university and dont actively fight bourgeois ideology you will quickly become a servant of the bourgeoisis. The same logic applies to sex.

            • DankZedong @lemmygrad.ml
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              11 months ago

              Please talk to a professional about whatever issues you are experiencing with your sexuality. It seems like you got quite a few things mixed up here and I don't think Lemmygrad is the right place for you to work those things out.