Never work in a nursing home.

  • happybadger [he/him]
    hexagon
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    3 years ago

    Totally agree. Dementia, MS, ALS, and cancer are all things I've seen the end stages of along with things like being locked in from a stroke. It's such a degrading way to go even if you could afford my $7000/mo nursing home and the right workers were on shift that day. The diseases strip them of everything until they're staring at empty walls like a cat under a porch. If they do try to kill themselves, that can be just as painful and failing will put them in the same bed in worse condition. Spending that $7000/mo wrecks the families who they leave behind and seeing their parent in that state leaves them with a warped perception of who that person was. Sometimes their grief turns psychotic and they want grandma to live even when "grandma" died a decade ago and there's just the body whose every function is micromanaged. There's no dignity in that and it's culturally normalised to benefit the for-profit industry around it. The right to die is the highest mercy medicine can give when we've reached the current limits of our abilities. It's the patient's decision alone, but withholding it is morally insane to me.

    • gaycomputeruser [she/her]
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      3 years ago

      Seriously if I'm in this situation please just kill me. It's cruel to let someone suffer like that instead of dying in peace.

    • Mardoniush [she/her]
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      3 years ago

      There was a time where even Catholic doctors would, when a person entered the final stage, just take the limiter off the morphine drip.

      It had its flaws, but your personal physician/palliative care specialist should be able to be given legal power to end your suffering, should you become unable to.

      The fact is most people who die dehydrate to death.