I watch this video of this guy try to install FreeBSD and every minute he is talking about people giving him shit for other videos on sun servers and keeps lamenting how he is going to get shit for the way he is doing the install. The constant sniping criticism that exists in these communities aside, what bothers me is watching it bother him so much that he can't shut up about it. It's a cliche but they live free in his head.
When I do watch these videos it's usually either NCommander or boomer greybeards because they aren't into cringe meme shit and are really bad at the content creator grift mindset.
It's also really disheartening when I see people freak out about code of conducts and drop out of projects because they can't live without snide remarks or abusive behavior. They are technical projects, why can't you keep it technical?
This culture also incubates a tendency for said tech bro programmers to believe they're somehow multidisciplinary Renaissance men who need to push their idiot-syncratic ideas into everything. It's epecially ironic when considering that most of their celebrated software developments from Dot Com to the present are depression machines and privacy nightmares.