Last year I was employed at a decent paying job with good benefits, doing work that mattered. Now I'm seven months unemployed, out of benefits and still getting ghosted by employers. Most everything else has remained the same (no friends, uncertainty with my gender and how I want to live my life, stuck living with my mom) except that I started seeing a therapist ~10 months ago who I really like.

It just feels really, really bad. I'm assuming other people have had this experience in their life already (I am both fairly young and a late bloomer in most respects), so I guess I'm asking how you dealt with it and how things got better, assuming they did :aware:

you can also commiserate with me if you like

thanks gamers

  • oktherebuddy
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    10 months ago

    This is an appallingly cliche boomer thing to say but life has ups and downs. When you're young the ups and downs happen on the scale of moments or days or perhaps weeks. As you age you can get large chunks of a year of ups or downs. Even older these can stretch to multiple years. For me I'm at around periods of 8 months or so of downs interspersed with ups. If this is your first time hitting a long down it can really seem terminal, this is how it will always be, etc. This is rarely the case as long as you have your health. So I can't say anything other than yes it sucks, I feel it completely, life isn't a monotonic upward progression toward anything. But after a few of these cycles you start not to care about each one too much. It still sucks when you're in the trough though.

    • RION [she/her]
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      10 months ago

      It's funny I was complaining to my therapist about my mom acting like things are destined get better (meanwhile tons of people see things get worse and never get better WRT housing, income, freedoms, and I'm not cosmically special compared to them), but we ended up arriving at "maybe things will get better" which is more my speed