you always have to be "one of the good ones", as in "capable of passing in our white, autochtonous, cishet ingroup and serving as our token minority to be paraded around and insulate us against all accusations of bigotry"

ofc this isn't exclusive to libs, chuds do the same thing except that "being one of the good ones" also means laughing about their reactionary jokes and affirming them that their usage of slurs is totally fine.