cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/541868
I'm literally not a manager, I'm the newest employee here and this other coworker sits and talks to a female coworker that likes the attention for the first 50 minutes after clocking in. They don't work and nobody seems to care. Infuriating as it is, I think this is not my problem to solve.
I'm thinking about telling the manager about it, because this person has accused me of not being a team player, but the last time I went to her with a problem (about an aggressive coworker that kept throwing tantrums and things to the floor to then kick them), she wanted me to talk to this other guy. WTF am I supposed to tell him? don't act like a psychopath?
is he your superior? that is the only thing that would require you to talk to your manager. depending on the firm culture and your ego i'd consider this: you are the new one. there are minds to make up abput you. if you go and tell them about the situation, your are the one ratting others out and playing right into his hands (by ratting him out you show yourself not being a team player and - depending on management views - maybe even high maintenance). if he talks about you, he is probably already known to make quick assumptions and not shut up about those. by not telling on him, on the other hand, you show that you provide value independent of others and are not easily influenced.
try to talk to the others (carefully) why he acts that way and how they deal with it. it is normal to ask questions. you are the new joiner and just want to get to know the firm culture.
sorry for typos (typed on phone)
