i dont want people to try and be cool therapists when they're not. all i care about is people not complaining about said trauama dumperse and villainizing them. im fine with people ignoring them, even. just dont shit on people who are suffering. that should be a general rule.
to be prefectly honest. it's not my job to help neurotypical and non-depressed, non-bipolar, non-anxious people understand this. it's not that hard and just takes a bare minimum level of sympathy. it doesnt even take that much to know what to say if someone does trauma dump on your chat but you don't know what to do to help. here's some examples:
"I really wish I could do more but I'm not a professional. Could some people in the chat who have more experience with this help them?"
"I don't have enough experience to speak on the issues you're going through. I'm sorry sad expression"
"Do you have any friends or family you could talk to this about? If not, I could reccommend some communities" (if you want them to talk to other people, jsut tell them. don't invent a whole phrase of 'trauma dumping' just to villainize)
"I'm not qualified for this and I don't want to make things worse. I wish the best of luck to you but I don't know if we can help you right now" (if you don't want to engage at all)
notice the only requirement is that you treat them like a human being. of course the rules of intersectionality apply. if you alos experience trauma or some form of mental illness then telling someone to fuck off is understandable
i never fucking siad you couldnt ignore it. holy shit i literally just gave those examples if you NEEDED to respond. im asking for the bare minimum. just don't fucking villainize people for grasping at straws to stay afloat.
when i say "sympathy" i just mean treat them like a human being. someone with value. that's all i ask. the concept of "trauma dumping" is such a clear and obvious attempt to separate us into factions of neurodivergent people tearing at each others throats. the acceptance of the notion it is disgusting.
it's not 'trauma dumping' when someone forgets to ask if you're comfortable and unloads on you and triggers your traumas. that's someone being forgetful and a little stupid. just remind them and tell them to stop. there is no villification or 'trauma dumping' as a term that needs to eixst.
finally, if someone gets angry about another person not being able to respond and that gets sidelined as there fault for getting angry its just ignoring the issue. the fact is that people need people to grasp onto and they need help. the notion of 'trauma dumping' is just a deflection into the realm of solipsism.
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i dont want people to try and be cool therapists when they're not. all i care about is people not complaining about said trauama dumperse and villainizing them. im fine with people ignoring them, even. just dont shit on people who are suffering. that should be a general rule.
to be prefectly honest. it's not my job to help neurotypical and non-depressed, non-bipolar, non-anxious people understand this. it's not that hard and just takes a bare minimum level of sympathy. it doesnt even take that much to know what to say if someone does trauma dump on your chat but you don't know what to do to help. here's some examples:
"I really wish I could do more but I'm not a professional. Could some people in the chat who have more experience with this help them?"
"I don't have enough experience to speak on the issues you're going through. I'm sorry sad expression"
"Do you have any friends or family you could talk to this about? If not, I could reccommend some communities" (if you want them to talk to other people, jsut tell them. don't invent a whole phrase of 'trauma dumping' just to villainize)
"I'm not qualified for this and I don't want to make things worse. I wish the best of luck to you but I don't know if we can help you right now" (if you don't want to engage at all)
notice the only requirement is that you treat them like a human being. of course the rules of intersectionality apply. if you alos experience trauma or some form of mental illness then telling someone to fuck off is understandable
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i never fucking siad you couldnt ignore it. holy shit i literally just gave those examples if you NEEDED to respond. im asking for the bare minimum. just don't fucking villainize people for grasping at straws to stay afloat.
when i say "sympathy" i just mean treat them like a human being. someone with value. that's all i ask. the concept of "trauma dumping" is such a clear and obvious attempt to separate us into factions of neurodivergent people tearing at each others throats. the acceptance of the notion it is disgusting.
it's not 'trauma dumping' when someone forgets to ask if you're comfortable and unloads on you and triggers your traumas. that's someone being forgetful and a little stupid. just remind them and tell them to stop. there is no villification or 'trauma dumping' as a term that needs to eixst.
finally, if someone gets angry about another person not being able to respond and that gets sidelined as there fault for getting angry its just ignoring the issue. the fact is that people need people to grasp onto and they need help. the notion of 'trauma dumping' is just a deflection into the realm of solipsism.