I am in the interview process for a job in a research group and it is going well so far. The only issue is that I was attracted to the person that interviewed me and I am going to be working with if I get hired.

My girlfriend is the most important person in the world for me so I don't want to risk catching feelings for someone else, but I also need to find a job if I am to rent a place to finally live with her.

What would you do in my case? Would you stop the interview process and try to find a job elsewhere or would you go for it and trust that you would do the right thing?

This question might sound deranged to you, but I have the full autism/ADHD/OCD combo so I am very out of touch with how the average person thinks.

  • M500@lemmy.ml
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    9 months ago

    I think if you are having issues around self control and cheating, then maybe your girlfriend isn’t the one for you. Maybe it’s a sign that there is someone else for you.

    • AdmiralDoohickey@lemmygrad.ml
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      9 months ago

      think if you are having issues around self control and cheating, then maybe your girlfriend isn’t the one for you. Maybe it’s a sign that there is someone else

      I never said I have cheated or even come close to. I have self control issues in other areas such as binge eating when stressed but that's it

      • relay@lemmygrad.ml
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        9 months ago

        Eating vs planning something with someone other than your partner are 2 different levels of impulse control. It takes a bit more work to cheat.

      • blakeus12 [he/him]
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        9 months ago

        just keep your feelings to yourself and be professional