Probably an odd question as it pertains to myself specifically, but I thought maybe others here have had similar experiences and can tell me.
When I was a kid I used to really get immersed into the games I played; I'd feel as though I was actually, feeling the very walls around me in dungeon crawlers, getting tense in fights and such, but nowadays I don't really get that sense any more. I'm in my mid-30's and now I'm thankfully able to afford any game I wish, I thankfully can choose how long I spend gaming, yet I just can't get immersed, I just can't get pulled in anymore.
My buddy told me about the Witcher 3 and told me it's great and immersive like only the oldest games ever were, and yet when I played it....I got kind of bored, and lost interest somewhat fast. One possibility is that maybe with modern proliferation of game knowledge, we can simply google for anything we want rather than let the game help us find what we need, pulling us out for that much of the game, another possibility is that we recognize mechanics and animations for what they are, and we try and memorize enemy combat animations, and our own iframes and such, even if instinctively.
I honestly can't remember the last game I played where I got immersed into the game and just felt the world rather than just see it.
Yup, many of my friends are into that grimdark and edgy storytelling; I've been tempted to play Kingmaker but one thing holding me back is concerns about unequal encounters where your party gets ganked by powerful mobs frequently, but also, I spend maybe half an hour making each character in my party because I'm so used to spending lots of time character sheet building in the regular pathfinder TTRPG. I also downloaded literally every class mod available at the time, giving me a gigantic list of classes and archetypes to work with. A part of me is tempted to just go with simple templates and just stick the difficulty on easy so I can just enjoy the story and not get bogged down with character sheet building.
There's a customizable "Story Mode" that allows you to just get into the exploration, the character interactions, and the larger scale decision making if the tactical combat is too overwhelming. There's even an option to simplify or even remove the actual kingdom management part of the game if you prefer just to go roaming around exploring like a typical d20 campaign.
Wrath of the Righteous is just more and better of what Kingmaker started, so if you enjoy one, you'll enjoy the other even more. And Wrath has a staggering number of options. Here, let me give you a semi-spoiler-tagged video you can browse over.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqzh4G9baik
You're playing the part of the game you like best: creating new characters. Don't feel bad about it, keep doing it if that's what you like.
A common thread on /r/Skyrim was "I started over and created a new character today!" followed by excited details of the build and how it would develop over time. The next week, the same person would post a new build. And so on, and so on.