i'm still a tad hesitant about what I've seen, but you make good points and have more experience with lemmygrad and its userbase than I do, so you've convinced me that federation with lemmygrad could work with a heavy hand to make sure it doesn't negatively affect hexbear's anarchist users

the first time I found out lemmygrad even existed was from a few months back when a new user who said they were from lemmygrad imploded all over a thread after a poster here said they enjoyed pornographic video games and sex positivity (aka not taped porn from the porn industry). the new user then started to link nofap threads from lemmygrad, and then deleted their account afterwards it was a very moment

right off the bat my first experience of the site was threads about dudes trying not to zerk it (as a gay dude the religious guilt energy in these threads were nauseating), and then i clicked to the main page and saw some genzedong looking anti-anarchist memes (which in retrospect probably was actually from c/genzedong) so I really got the worst possible first impression of the place which I see now probably ain't too representative of how it is normally lmao, and that instantly made the site and talk of federating with it unfairly to me