Pass wisdom and virtues of humility and patience. Pass down your experience and ability so that the next generation (not just your own children) can build a better world for themselves. Stand as a bastion of emotional calm, while showing that you understand how to deal with your grief and anger in healthy ways. And use the consequences of your past abuses of these virtues to warn the next generation to not do the same.
Iroh is a man therefore he's masculine. What would Iroh have to do for you to consider him masculine?
Iroh isn't a man. He's the man
Pass wisdom and virtues of humility and patience. Pass down your experience and ability so that the next generation (not just your own children) can build a better world for themselves. Stand as a bastion of emotional calm, while showing that you understand how to deal with your grief and anger in healthy ways. And use the consequences of your past abuses of these virtues to warn the next generation to not do the same.
This is exactly who Iroh was.