I made two posts on !anime@lemmy.ml, neither are visible on both instances lemmy.ml are recommending.
beehaw.org has already become a much bigger instance and they ban lemmygrad, we're already invisible to half the people using lemmy.
It will keep getting worse, at some point you'll need to maintain two separate instance accounts and you'll consider dropping one of them.
The servers of lemmy.ml (along with a few of the other large instances) are taking a beating from the massive influx of redditors.