alternative post title: how can I grow a thicker skin, so I simply stop caring what my coworkers think or say?

I'm still looking for a drama free workplace and I don't understand why people seem to enjoy creating chaos out of nowhere

Working in several industries, I've met:

  • white Christian nationalist: too many Arabs and Mexicans in our country, somebody should send them all back to where they belong, and I'm very Christian. This was 5 minutes after meeting me for the first time. Why even tell this to a coworker?

  • Married woman complaining to me about how her husband isn't so affectionate nowadays: 2 minutes after meeting me for the first time. Who does that? Shouldn't you tell this to somebody you trust, like a friend and not a stranger you met 2 minutes ago?

  • An anti vaxxer trying to convert me to his cause, or however you want to call it.

  • And just today: 'it's good that Trump was shot' Why would a sane person blurt that out in the middle of our pause for everyone to hear you? Why do you need to antagonize your coworkers? This was a manager btw.

I have waaaaay more examples, but I'll keep it simple.

I just want to work and go home. Completely drama free. I don't want to care what coworkers think, but apparently I'm very thin skinned and I'm easy to be triggered. Each of the examples I wrote triggered me: I wanted to yell 'fck off, you piece of sht, I don't give a f*ck what you think, leave me alone', or something like that. But I need the job.

My conundrum: If this happens at every workplace, wouldn't it make more sense to stay with the devil you know?

Unless, of course, you've job hopped till you found a drama free workplace... please tell me how you did it.

I want to be the old guy who doesn't give a f*ck about stuff like this, yet it still triggers me.

  • That_Devil_Girl@lemmy.ml
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    4 months ago

    Unfortunately this is everywhere. I work as a welder at a large shipyard, and we have the same drama.

    We have a female welder who steals tools and personal items from others, then cries "Christian persecution" when she experiences any consequences for her actions. Shockingly, it works and she's never punished or arrested. They do make her give the items back, so that's something.

    We have the MAGA crazies who vandalize company property with their dumb political / sexist / racist / homophobic crap. They just recently vandalized & destroyed one of the few female bathrooms with a sledgehammer. Shipyard police are still "*looking into it." I now have to either use a gross porta-potty or walk a mile to use a real bathroom.

    We have a ton of anti-vaxxers who believe some of the most batshit crazy things. Though, the more hard-core ones were fired some time ago. The ones who complied and wore a mask got to stay.

    This is just human nature. This is what you get when you have two or more people together at one place.

    • Riffraffintheroom [none/use name]
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      4 months ago

      For many people work is 100% of their social network besides their family. They have an unfulfilled basic need that gets bottled up and so gets expressed in unhealthy ways. My boss, who is the only one I hear weird shit like this from, has explicitly told me that he doesn’t have any friends and hasn’t for years. I feel sort of bad for him but then he says shit like gen z is beta and the feeling goes away.