obligatory I'm a German nurse living in Germany, but the German channels on lemmy don't have as many members as this one, so I ask here.

When I work I like to do my job and then relax. To me, doing it the other way round is just stupid. I was never the kind of person that goes to work to socialize, I don't need it and I strongly resent forced socialization.

For the last 2 years I've worked within the same hospital system and it's clear to me now, nobody thinks like me: all my coworkers spend the first hour of the shift talking about their private lives, as they were looking for excuses not to work and expect anyone else to take care of patients. And because I'm the only one with this job mentality, it's always me the one who works while the rest do nothing.

This is very frustrating and I'm now applying elsewhere, but it bothers me that my new workplace can turn out to be like this.

I'm also applying for office positions (no shifts) and wonder: does this happen there as well? Ideally I'd be completely responsible for my work alone.

I feel like a student at school again, when the teacher forced me to work in a group with the lazier ones and I ended up either doing most of the job or became as lazy as them. Why work when they don't?

I don't want to work with people who slow me down.

  • treadful@lemmy.zip
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    3 months ago

    And because I’m the only one with this job mentality, it’s always me the one who works while the rest do nothing.

    This is very frustrating and I’m now applying elsewhere, but it bothers me that my new workplace can turn out to be like this.

    You'll see this everywhere. If you're not their manager, it's not worth worrying about.

    • eli04@linux.community
      hexagon
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      3 months ago

      so how would a smart person react to this?

      I wouldn't worry if we distributed patients: I'd have my patients and do only them, but management expects me to cater to all patients, including the ones from the lazy ones...

      Im seriously thinking about becoming like them... I jut hope management doesn't yell a lot when I do that.

      • lechatron@lemmy.today
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        3 months ago

        so how would a smart person react to this?

        I would just start working the same way they do. If you're the only one with that work ethic and picking up their slack you're probably enabling them to be lazy because they know it will get done. If things stop getting done in a timely manner someone higher up may notice and do something about it then hopefully everyone will have to start contributing again. Also might be worth talking to your boss about it.

        I'm not sure how common this situation is, but I'd assume different places have different work cultures. Looking for another job is a good idea, hopefully you'll find a place that's a better fit.

      • treadful@lemmy.zip
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        3 months ago

        I wouldn’t worry if we distributed patients: I’d have my patients and do only them, but management expects me to cater to all patients, including the ones from the lazy ones…

        Don't overwork yourself for others. Help out if you want, but don't feel like you have to. If your boss reacts negatively, well, then it might be time to look for a move.

  • SoJB@lemmy.ml
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    3 months ago

    You think you’re pissed off now, wait til you find out those slackers are making more money than you and will be promoted ahead of you because, well you do such good work, how would they ever find a good replacement?

    This following sentences are something that took me years to fully internalize, thankfully it didn’t take more.

    Nobody on their deathbed ever said “I wish I worked more unpaid overtime”. Nobody grieving at a funeral ever said “I wish I spent more time at work instead of with them”.

    And nobody at your company ever said “I wish I paid you more”.

  • Azzu@lemm.ee
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    3 months ago

    resent forced socialization.

    is anyone forcing you to socialize? If so, how are you forced?

    And because I’m the only one with this job mentality, it’s always me the one who works while the rest do nothing.

    That sounds to me like there are too many nurses then. If everyone can do nothing and you're the only one working, that must mean only one nurse is required, right? Did you inform your superiors about this?

    I don’t want to work with people who slow me down.

    How do they slow you down? It seems from your post like they just don't do much, how does that impact your speed exactly? You say while they talk, you can work. Isn't that the opposite of slowing you down, they're actually getting out of your way?

  • ssm@lemmy.sdf.org
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    3 months ago

    You're being used, and your coworkers are more than happy to slack off and give the CEO the finger. The only reward for hard work is more work.

  • dwindling7373@feddit.it
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    3 months ago

    You are letting yourself be exploited, look for a place that quickly notice your work culture and grand you a better pay / career.

    Edit: how do I deal with it? I don't really care what other do, thigs that don't work are always on the higher ups, if my colleagues are having fun on the job, good for them!

    • rando895@lemmygrad.ml
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      3 months ago

      Yeah, operating dangerously close to "work to rule" most days is a great way to minimize exploitation.

        • rando895@lemmygrad.ml
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          3 months ago

          Within any job, there is what your role is on paper, and what you actually do over the course of a work day. Often times what you actually do is much more than "expected". Work to rule means that you stick explicitly to what your role is, and the way the company expects you to perform your duties. Or rather, what they expect on paper.

          An example: Unionized employees will often "work to rule" as one of the first steps aimed at putting pressure on an employer to negotiate. It's an entirely legal thing to do, and serves to exemplify the disconnect between on paper job expectations (what you are paid for), and real expectations.

          Thus, working as per your contract/job description with minimal deviation, will minimize how much you are exploited by ensuring you only do the work out are paid for.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@midwest.social
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    3 months ago

    Well me, I'm a waitress. If my coworkers don't wanna work I tell them to take the cut and go home, then I stay and make more money. And while they're there, if they wanna hide in the back instead of monitoring the floor, well, I shark their tables. Gotta work to make money, honey.

  • CrypticCoffee@lemmy.ml
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    3 months ago

    "When I work I like to do my job and then relax."

    They like to do it the other way around. They do nothing, then something. You do something then nothing. Why do you feel that your way has to b the right way and everyone else is wrong?

    Do your workload, and no more, and be fine with it, or move to another organisation with the same problem.

    The goal is for you to be able to understand that people in this world are different to you and that is fine. As long as you aren't doing their job for them, it's all good. If you choose to do that, it is on you.