This should be a pretty basic feature, just not having a private message be there anymore. But for some reason that does not work here?
I tried searching for this. I found a year old open issue on GitHub and some reddit users complaining about this very issue.
Talking with some people in the comments here, it seems like some people don't understand that one might not want a message to be in their face. Or the idea that just because something could be recovered doesn't mean we should treat it as an absolute
Perhaps it's worth joining an EU instance in case this creeps me out too much. I'd like to be able to use my right to be forgotten