Hello all,
Since @CARCOSA@hexbear.net has done me the courtesy of reversing my temp ban, I am taking @kristina@hexbear.net up on her invitation to self criticize (although we now know this comm is NOT for inviting others to self crit).
In short, I was BIG MAD because some of the statements put out by the mod team during the tank comm debacle hit way too close to home for reasons I won't get into here, and I took them extremely personally. In the midst of posting furiously about this, I repeatedly misgendered CARCOSA (I've now edited what I can of this, but the modlog contains a record for anyone who would care to see). I assumed that I knew their pronouns, when I should have checked if I wasn't sure, because I was focused on posting and my own outrage. This is bitterly ironic, because I was angry in particular at what I felt were invalidating statements from the mod team regarding my own gender and sexuality, and yet this led me to invalidate the identity of someone else. In doing this I failed in a basic courtesy that I owe to people in general, and the other members of this site in particular. I would like to therefore apologize to CARCOSA and anyone else who was harmed by witnessing the misgendering. I further regret that I was unable to make this apology in a more timely fashion due to being temp banned.
I promise to do my utmost to do better in the future and hope that everyone here will continue to hold me accountable.
Thank you for the post and with regard to me no harm done at all.
A lot of tempers flared after a couple of bad pots/comments from myself. I am wanting to reach out to you and several others harmed by this to work at learning from this, putting that into action, and healing.
I would love that